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Setting Limits
What if I cross a limit?
The most important thing to know is that you do not have to stay at that level of physical intimacy. No matter what you have done, you can go back to where your limits were before. Or maybe you have realized that your limit should have been more strict, because it was too hard not to cross it—in that case, redefine your limits to protect you more. It is never too late to start over!
For More Information:
Doinitright.org
http://doinitright.org/straightup/limits/
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Making a Commitment
Here are the steps you can take to achieve RENEWED VIRGINITY:
1) The first step you've probably already taken...but it's very important: DECIDE TO CHANGE. That's right! Every change we make begins with a mental choice!
2) Next, you've got to stop doing things that turn each other on. Set limits on physical contact. Talk to your date about situations that make it difficult to resist sex. You might want to make a list of things to avoid doing together and decide that if it's on the list...you won't go there. For example, you might write things like: "laying down together to watch a movie" or "touching any body part covered by underwear or a bra". You KNOW what makes the temptation too hard to resist, so begin there! ....
For More Information:
4abstinence
http://www.4abstinence.com/makeacommitment.htm
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How to Stop
But listen carefully. Just because someone has had a sexual relationship doesn't mean he or she has to continue doing something he or she knows could mess up his or her life. For example, if a person had too much to drink, got into his car, and almost killed himself when he ran off the road and smashed into a tree, would you think he should continue to get drunk and drive simply because he had done this in the past? That doesn't make sense, does it? Well, neither does it make sense for a person who has had sex to continue doing it just because he or she had done it in the past.
Click on "How to Stop."
For More Information:
Teen Choices
http://www.teenchoices.com/
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Research Indicates Health Benefits from Abstinence Education, even for Sexually Active Teens
In addition, sexually active teens are told that because they made the decision to be sexually active in the past does not mean they cannot change that decision for their future.
“Since having multiple sexual partners is the greatest risk factor for contracting STDs, Worth the Wait stresses that abstinence is the healthiest decision for sexually active teens,” Ladd said. “Then we give all teens the skills they need to make that decision a reality.”
For More Information:
Baylor Business News
http://business.baylor.edu/news/details.aspx?articleID=360
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What If I've Already had Sex?
Even if you have made mistakes in the past, you still want to give yourself the best chance for succeeding at these goals. And you can. Here's why it matters what you do: every time you have sex, you put yourself at risk. That's true for both getting pregnant and getting an STD. And either one of those can change your life.
For More Information:
First Things First
http://www.firstthings.org/inflow/templates/?a=85&z=30
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Making the Case for Abstinence
Nitia Harris, Miss Langston University 2001, from Oklahoma, had a more tragic story. Miss Harris was raped in early adolescence. The trauma of that put her on a downward spiral, and she became very sexually active, though she hated herself for doing it. Then one day she heard an abstinence message...
Nitia promised herself she would practice what is called “secondary virginity.” She reformed. Her friends didn’t believe in her: “No way, you can’t do it, girl,” they laughed. But she did it. As she concluded by telling how she has kept that promise, the students started applauding, then stood up and continued applauding. They knew exactly how hard her choice has been. And they loved her for her courage.
For More Information:
Connie Marshner
http://orthodoxytoday.org/articles/MarshnerAbstinence.php
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Reclaimed Virginity
One can reclaim virginity after it is given away.
It is never too late to decide to make a pledge for abstinence.
Of course, one still has to face the consequences for earlier sexual activity
like stds, pregnancy, emotional distress.
Many teens, however, decide that they no longer want to risk their health
and well-being, so they decide to take a different route and to choose
the path of abstinence. WOW...WHAT A DIFFERENCE THAT CAN MAKE!!!
Two roads diverged in a wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth...
For More Information:
Worth the Wait
http://www.worthwait.org/teens/vir.asp?topic=other
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CURRICULUM CLIP
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Do not try to imitate the intimacy of marriage in dating. Sexual activity is never a shortcut to a good relationship. On the contrary, it prevents the relationship from growing and developing normally.
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